Sunday, May 18, 2008

Tempest Smith - another Victim of hatred of goths and Wiccans

Thanks to Leanisb again for drawing our attention to the suicide of 12 year old Tempest Smith in the States in February 2001 in Michigan which I hadn't noted before. She committed suicide because of bullies picking on her for her black clothing and interest in Wicca. Five months after the suicide, Tempest Smith's mother, Denessa, filed suit against the school, alleging that they had turned a blind eye to the bullying and that their inaction allowed an avoidable suicide. It seems this another case of bullycide just like Dominic Maynard.

George Hunter (The Detroit News) reports, “Tempest Smith, age 12, sat alone in her bedroom one chilly morning late last month and gazed into the mirror. Shortly before her classes were to start at Lincoln Park (MI) Middle School, she kissed her reflection goodbye. The lipstick smudges still adorn Tempest’s mirror, sad reminders of the day the tall, troubled girl slipped a leopard-print scarf around her neck and hanged herself from her bunk bed.”

Teasing and taunting led girl to end her life
Pressures that prompted mass shootings also spur quiet suicides
By George Hunter
The Detroit News

LINCOLN PARK — Twelve-year-old Tempest Smith sat alone in her bedroom one chilly morning late last month and gazed into the mirror. Shortly before her classes were to start at Lincoln Park Middle School, she kissed her reflection goodbye.

The lipstick smudges still adorn Tempest’s mirror, sad reminders of the day the tall, troubled girl slipped a leopard-print scarf around her neck and hanged herself from her bunk bed.

Tempest’s journal, discovered under her bed after her Feb. 20 suicide, offers a glimpse into a problem family and friends didn’t fully understand: the incessant teasing she faced every day about her shy demeanor, choice of clothing and religious beliefs that made each day of school — then eventually life itself — unbearable.

Everyone is against me. Still, death will come sooner or later for me. Will I ever have friends again?

The haunting, hopeless feelings Tempest privately expressed in her daily journal are shared by an increasing number of children. Although older teens commit the bulk of suicides, at least 300 children ages 10-14 kill themselves annually nationwide. The number of suicides in that age group has tripled since 1995 in Michigan.

Taunts alone usually won’t cause a child to commit suicide, experts say. But combined with other problems, constant ridicule by peers can be enough to push a kid over the edge. Teasing and bullying is a constant thread running through school violence.

On Monday, a ninth-grader at Santana High School near San Diego shot and killed two students and wounded 13 others; classmates said the 15-year-old was often picked on. And at Columbine High School in 1999, two students who’d been teased for years gunned down 12 classmates and a teacher before killing themselves.

But for every violent episode that makes headlines, there are more than 2,000 U.S. children each year who, like Tempest Smith, quietly decide they can’t take it any more.

‘Jesus luvs u’

Tempest often spent hours in her bedroom writing poems and other reflections in the small notebook she kept beneath her bed. The notebook was a birthday gift from her mother. It had a picture of pop star Ricky Martin on the cover.

Tempest, a tall, slim blond who got her name because she was born during a violent storm, wrote about typical youthful concerns: crushes on boys; her dog, a shar-pei named Buddy; trips to her grandmother’s house. She wrote about family, calling her mother, “the best mom ever.”

She also wrote about the pain she increasingly endured during school.

He said some things to me. It all made my skin boil. Afterward, my head ached.

Denessa Smith sits alone in her dead daughter’s room. Tempest Smith, 12, killed herself in her Lincoln Park bedroom last month after being taunted by classmates.

Although Tempest had a few friends, many of her classmates had teased her constantly since elementary school. They teased her because she wore dark “Gothic” clothing to school. They teased her because she read books about Wicca, a pagan religion often associated with witchcraft. Her classmates often taunted her with Christian hymns.

Now people aren’t chanting Jesus luvs u. They’re singing it.

“Tempest was her own person, and the kids made fun of her a lot,” said classmate Shayna Obiyan, 12.

Tempest didn’t smile much at school, said 14-year-old Jason Pate. “She seemed sad all the time,” he said.

Life at home was different, said Tempest’s mother, Denessa Smith. “She was very talented,” Smith said of her oldest child. “She liked to play the flute and write poetry.”

Smith, who raised Tempest alone, wasn’t concerned when her daughter became interested in witchcraft. “She asked me if I’d buy her some books about Wicca, and I said I wanted to read them first,” Smith said. “The books all talked about love and nature. I didn’t see anything wrong with that.”

Tempest would get moody sometimes — “but what 12-year-old girl doesn’t?” wondered Smith, an administrative assistant at McDonald’s Corp. in Taylor. “I knew she was being teased at school, but I didn’t know it bothered her that much. She never told me.”

‘Her lips were blue’

Feb. 20 was a half-day at Lincoln Park Middle School. Tempest wasn’t due in class until noon. She woke up around 10 a.m., showered, then donned her usual outfit: black pants and a black shirt. Then she ate a bowl of Frosted Flakes and watched television.

Because of the late school day, Annette Crossman, a family friend, offered to drive Tempest to class while her mother was at work. “She seemed perfectly normal,” Crossman said.

After breakfast, Tempest went to her bedroom. “At around 11:30, I hollered that it was time to go,” Crossman said. “She didn’t answer.”

Crossman noticed that Buddy, the family dog, was acting strangely. “He was walking around in circles and whining,” she said. “That’s when I knew something was wrong.”

When Crossman rushed to Tempest’s bedroom, she found the girl hanging.

“At first, I didn’t believe what I was seeing,” Crossman said. “Then it hit me, and I got a knife and cut her down. Her lips were blue; I was freaking out.”

She called for an ambulance, which arrived within minutes. Tempest was rushed to Henry Ford Hospital in Wyandotte.

Crossman called Denessa Smith at work, and Tempest’s frantic mother raced to the hospital. “When I got there,” Smith said, “the doctors told me Tempest was probably brain-dead, but that they couldn’t make an official prognosis.”

A helicopter transported Tempest to the University of Michigan Hospital in Ann Arbor. At 5:30 p.m., doctors told Smith her daughter was suffering irreparable brain damage, due to asphyxiation.

At 10:55 a.m. on Feb. 21, after more than 50 organs were removed from her body for donations, Tempest Smith was taken off the hospital’s life support system.

Students express grief, guilt

Do you want to be around me? Ever will I live in peace?

Students at Lincoln Park Middle School are now trying to find peace themselves, haunted by the feeling that they may have driven their classmate to end her life. Many of Tempest’s classmates have told teachers and counselors they feel responsible, because they teased the girl so ruthlessly. More than 100 students showed up at Tempest’s funeral last Saturday, bearing cards and placards expressing their grief — and guilt.

“I’m sorry if I said mean things to you,” one of Tempest’s classmates wrote. “I didn’t mean them. It was the easiest way for me to hide what was wrong with me.”

“I am sorry that it led to this,” was the message written on a placard. “None of it should have happened. If only they had understood, then you would still be alive.”

Lincoln Park school officials and grief counselors have been working with the students.

“The last thing we want to do is make our students feel guilty,” said Lincoln Park Middle School Principal Robert Redden. “But, maybe there is a lesson to be learned here: that we should strive to treat each other with more kindness.”

More than 2,000 school-age children — age 19 or younger — take their own lives each year, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

And while the numbers are small, the rise in suicides by children ages 10 to 14 is particularly troubling, health officials say.

Only four Michigan children in that age group committed suicide in 1995. In 1998, the most recent year for which statistics are available, 13 children in the state had taken their lives.

While there are no simple answers, health officials believe that teasing can send an already troubled child over the edge.

More than 90 percent of people who commit suicide suffer from clinical depression, said Lanny Berman, executive director of the American Association of Suicidology in Washington, D.C. “Often, it’s these mental conditions that cause children to be teased in the first place,” Berman said.

Jean Vasquez twice attempted suicide by slitting her wrists when she was in middle school. She still has the scars on her wrists, reminders of her difficulty dealing with the relentless teasing she received as a child.

“If you’re a little different, some kids can make your life an absolute hell,” said Vasquez, now 35, of Detroit.

Are schools responsible?

Anybody here to hear me? No one will stay near me.

Educators who fail to hear the distressed cries from students who are harassed now face litigation, after a 1999 Supreme Court ruling held a Georgia school district liable for monetary damages to a fifth-grader because of the district’s indifference to a pattern of sexual harassment.

There have since been a number of similar lawsuits, said Michigan Association of School Boards legal council Brad Banasik. “The Supreme Court case opened the door,” Banasik said. “But, the person bringing the lawsuit has to prove that a teacher or other administrator actually saw the harassment.”

Robin and Carl Zaas lost a lawsuit against the Northville district last year, after the couple failed to prove their 9-year-old daughter’s teachers were aware of any allegations of harassment by other students.

But similar suits have been successful. In 1999, a Seattle teen with cerebral palsy was awarded $300,000 in an out-of-court settlement, after the boy sued the school because he said his teachers were indifferent to his classmates’ taunts about his medical condition.

Denessa Smith isn’t sure if school staff knew about the teasing her daughter received.

“Tempest said she told her teachers about it all the time,” Smith said. “I have to wonder if someone in the school couldn’t have stopped it.”

School administrators weren’t aware of the problem, said Principal Redden. “If the teachers don’t actually see the teasing, there’s not much they can do,” he said.

Not too late

Death — why does it come? Ever will I die? No, no, I will live hopefully.

Educators are becoming aware of the often devastating effects of teasing and bullying by students, and some schools are setting policies that deal with the problem. In one Oakland, Calif., district, students have a “consulting teacher” they check in with twice daily, who resolves any conflict before allowing them back to class.

And in New Mexico, Chelwood Elementary School Principal Jack Vermillion last year instituted an “anti-bullying” program.

“Experience shows that about 15 percent of students do the teasing; 10 percent are teased; and 75 percent are glad they don’t get teased,” Vermillion said. “This program focuses on getting that silent majority to speak out when they see a classmate being teased or bullied.”

Such programs seem to work. Vermillion said he usually suspends between eight and 10 students a year for fighting; during the first year of the effort, he suspended just one. And, in Norway, bullying behavior reportedly dropped by 50 percent after a program was instituted in schools there.

Although Tempest Smith is gone, it’s not too late for educators and students to open their eyes to the consequences of teasing, Denessa Smith said.

“You never know — something you say might be the one thing that pushes them over the edge,” Smith said

Tempest would’ve been surprised at how many of her classmates cared about her, said seventh-grader Shirley Kovacs.

“I was sad when she died,” Kovacs said. “The whole school was sad.”

You can find out more here about Tempest's foundation which mainly seems to be based around religious tolerance for pagans here:

The Tempest Smith Foundation

Leanis also mentioned the Nicola Raphael suicide which I thought I had blogged about before when I noted it when I was dealing with Glasgow but for some reason the post got trapped in draft. I have now put it up here. The similarities between these cases are interesting. The question is how many other alternative people self-harm or consider suicide because of bullying? I fear it may be many. Look at this recent plea for help:

Attack on 14 year old left her feeling suicidal


Wiz Kun said...

I feel so sorry about her. It is very sad.
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Requiem said...

This story brought me to tears. My heart goes out to Denessa, and to Tempest. It saddens me, but it enrages me aswell. Its a shame that we live in a world where people fear what and who they do not understand. What's 'real' is that this goes on everyday, everywhere! I want to share this story on my site and introduce others to it. I'm sure it will touch their hearts, as it did mine. Thank you for putting the story out there. Things like this, need to be heard.

Anonymous said...

Wow that's really upsetting. I will not kill my self...I only cut but I've calmed down a little......I'm 15 and understand what she went through. It's really fucked up what pressure can do to you.

Anonymous said...

Tempest all I can say is that when I start in my own classroom sensitive and talented people such as yourself will be protected. I will have a zero tolerence policy towards emotionally destroying someone. We need to protect fragile people, not because we are afraid OF them or FOR them but because it is the right thing to do, even if it seems it does not bother them. I knew what you had to go through and I feel really bad that time in my life was stolen from me as I was abused and ground down to nothing inside. I used artwork and hurting myself to feel better. It haunts me though, even now as an adult.

Max (& yes, I'm a girl) said...

As a fellow wiccan-goth, I totally understand what she was going through. I was lucky to have a best friend who attempted suicide, because I felt what the loved ones go through when something like that happens. Of course, now she's catholic, married, and living with her baby boy halfway across the country... But I'm still goth, still Wiccan, and I'm 21, so most people don't mess with me. Not to my face at least.

emo kid said...

I know how she feels.. im her age and i get teased for wearing skin tight jeans black tees of bands like hawthrone heights and silverstein and having my hair in my face and heavy eyeliner on. I got so mad at being teased I slit my writs........ but i dont now. im very emotional i read things like her and weite poetry and nget teased but i know my boy friend is the only one who under stands... he told me this "hate is easy but love takes coursge"

emo kid (im a girl)again said...


Anonymous said...

I am a 40 year old mother of 3 and I am what some people would call Wicca, or pagan, or even a witch. nun of my kids follow my life yet.. but my kids have some friends that do .. so maybe if the adults openly put it out there and talk to them about what they are feeling and going throw..If we educate others like they do in the about other religions.. maybe sad events wouldn't happen and kids wouldn't feel like that is there only way to be understood... any one can email me at

Anonymous said...

This is horrible, absolutely horrible. And she was attacked for her religion. Honestly, I believe that people of religions other than christianity go to hell, but another philosophy of mine is "Don't send anyone to hell in a handbasket. The devil already has enough shampoo, oranges and other fruits, and flowers."

*Yes, I am a christian goth. I don't take my religion seriously because I could be wrong and Jesus could've been a Skizophrenic.

Anonymous said...

It hurts just to think of the pain Tempest Smith went to. I am Wiccan and have not told many people and this story siscourages me to do so further. I believe that all life is sacred and a shadow passed over Gaia the day you lost yours. Always, someone who feels your pain xx

Anonymous said...

I am a aspiring wiccan, and I am bullied constantly on the bus, and the bus drive just smiles and laighs as the 8th grade eyes fall onto my body, and their twisted smiles mock me for my body, and my orientation. I'm Lesbian. I'm still a person. I've cut. It didn't work. I've thought of suicide,and running away, but I couldn't hurt my loved ones like that, no matter how good it sounded. I guess I'm just another depressed person right? Happiness never works either. I look at my religion, poems, drawing, dancing, and photography as a way to let it out, and let my self breathe, grow, and love as if I was a normal person.

Storm Midnight said...

i dont know how her parents feel but i do know how Tempest felt I am now being picked on because of my religion (Wiccan) i can not stand it any longer. this story brought tears to my eyes as i read it. i recently came from a class where one of the kids goes "Lets dual i will get out my wand" I am sorry for the way she passed. she had her whole life ahead of her. i am now a senior in high school and am graduating in May i still go through this day by day. i try to let it go by but it never does all i have to say is NEVER bully someone because of their race, religion, music interest, etc... it is not right and not fair to all the kids in the world that they have to feel that they are different and they are singled out with everything thtey do at school or even in the real world. my advice... Let it go by or tell someone like a counselor or a teacher or a best friend. they will help you through it.

Anonymous said...

I think every teacher should start the day with a reminder of the golden rule "TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED! period!

Anonymous said...

I know what Tempest went through. I, now 18, went through a strong depression period from 10-14 and it was all started by being teased all the time at school, after school camp, and summer camp; I could barley escape it. I only ever cut, but I thought all the time about suicide and almost did it because my depression got so bad. People don't realize how harmful words can be till too late. But now, when I see people that used to tease me in school, not only do I see guilt and a different person in them, I also see that they have seen an extreme change in me, and the wounder if they haven't caused the darker person I am today. Bessed be and Merry met

Anonymous said...

I am a 28 year old female Wiccan college student in Southern Oregon, and I have to say that it still saddens me to this day to know that a young woman took her own life because she was taunted by others that felt that because she was different... Tempest darling may you dance with Goddess, and know that others like me are trying to get your story more noticed that it was given... Tempest and your Mother, know that you both are loved..
Blessed Be

Alex Herley(Girl) said...

Dear Tempest,
.. I heard about your story on YouTube . Well , i'm 12 yrs old now , and when I saw your story I was amazed .. I don't really know what "Wiccan" is , but I think it's rediculous that people would make fun of you for what you believe in , and aspecially for what you wear . There's nothing wrong with wearing what you like , as long as it makes you feel happy about yourself . To everyone who's getting bullied : Don't care about what others think of you . Everyone has to have atleast 1 friend . You were born original , don't die a copy . If you're getting bullied , speak up . Tell someone , because the sooner you do something about it , the quicker it will stop . People are stupid , and teenagers are hung up on hormones and don't realize what they're doing . Also , don't just stand there when a group is about to punch you or is making fun of you , do something . Defend yourself . It's never good to run away from a problem . Like I said , get help , because there is nothing in this world losing your life over . YOLO (You Only Live Once) So make the best of it . And RIP Tempest Kayne Smith , your story does not only touch me , but many other people as well .(:

Sincerely ,

Rudy from Houston, Texas said...

As I hold the little container of your ashes that your sweet mom sent to me, Tempest, I can't help but feel anger that you had to be put through such heartache. You should still be living today, proud of what you believed in. But you're hurting no more. Free to fly about the universe in great passion and happiness because that is where it doesn't matter what you choose to like, or who you choose to be. Be blessed, sweet Tempest.

Anonymous said...

I'm so very sorry for what you went through.. If I had any part in making you feel not worthy I'm am truly sorry... If I could go back I would protect you and have your back I would be there for you. I have one very sad memory of you it was raining and you were standing outside the doors at school trying to get in there were a few people holding the door so you couldn't open it... You were crying and begging them to let you in.. Your blonde hair black shirt and black pants were soaking wet and I did nothing... I did nothing to stop them and nothing to help you.. If I could go back to that day I would have helped you tempest I'm so very sorry

Anonymous said...

I was one of her classmates. Everyday i heard someone saying somethinh to her. Wish bullying was as serious then as it is now. That was a really sad day. And the ones that did bully her they have to live with there selfs hope it bothers them for yhe rest of there life. Fly high angel. R.i.p

Anonymous said...

Her mother had since passed away. I also attended school with Tempest . The last day she attended school they had surrounded her by the vending machines , taunting, making jokes and harassing her. A large group of Boys and girls. I remember a female pair of twins tormenting her for attempting to sit at their table so she sat at mine. I believe it was a Friday we had a 3 half day weekend. The mental abuse she endured that day weighed heavier then every other day. The lunch ladies and teachers who watched over us should have stepped it. They knew but never interfered. Since she's passed our class has lived with a curse of death. Increasing every year. I don't believe it was strictly bc she was into Wicca, we were a very diverse group. Her quiet demeanor and never standing up for herself made her a easy target. Her mother was also a lesbian and practiced Wicca that was only used as ammo against Tempest. She was the perfect storm. Unfortunately her life was short lived yet her story has inspired and helped others. I hope people learn from this, once they're dead it's far too late.

Debra King said...

I new that family and she was a sweet girl to bad kids vot to be that way.her mother die a few years back.and she also had a son I pray he doing ok because there was so much sad in the family. R.I.P to them

Debra King said...

She was a sweet girl she Just wanting to be like justlike any kid.R.I.P baby girl. Xoxoxo

Lisa in Loveland, CO said...

I ran across this story while reading about the horrors of the Middle Ages during the Holy Inquisitions. I was astounded to see poor Tempest Smith's name listed as a tortured soul in this modern time so I looked her up.

As I read about the atrocities committed against so many people during that dark time in our history, I thought how ignorant and barbaric people were to one another in the name of Christianity. I thought of how much we have learned since those days. Then, reading about Tempest and reflecting on how my own son has been tormented his entire young life for being gay, particularly by those who consider themselves "Christians", I realized we haven't come nearly far enough.

Although I was raised Catholic, I am a practicing Christian in a non-denominational church. I find that many self-proclaimed Christians are the first to judge those people different than themselves, which flies in the face of all of Jesus' teachings. Now, in view of the atrocities committed by Muslim Extremists, all in the name of their God Allah, it is clear that history repeats itself and that society and civilized people still have not learned that LOVE is the second highest commandment.

I pray God opened His arms for Tempest, despite or in honor of her love of His nature and the beauty of the Earth He created. I pray our youth will learn LOVE and COMPASSION despite the horrible examples of hatred being shown to them by ignorant anf barbaric people around the world and even in our own Country. And I pray that adults in positions of authority, parents, teachers, school administrators, doctors and nurses, all work to truly see what our children are experiencing and how the negative experiences endured by Tempest and my own son affect young minds and lives.

Rest in peace, dear Tempest, in the knowledge that the end of your life continues to keep people talking and thinking about you and all of our youth. It is just trajic that it was your death, not your life that brought this discussion to light.

Ashley Windle said...

I was a grade ahead of her, went to the same schools and was subjected to the same ridicule. I saw students crying at the middle school over teasing that poor girl. I was bullied, teased, treated awful for not fitting into what people think you should be. I also was turned a blind eye by the staff even had a sub laugh at me with the kids. This story breaks my heart because I suffered the same torment which no child should have to. I was depressed, had thoughts of suicide, it happens all too often in society and takes something like the suicide of a young girl to shock people. She was a person not some punching bag for others. Even after her death the teasing didn't stop the school acted blameless when everyone knew what was happening. Stepping up and saying something brings more torment. What was she to do? I can understand her feeling like no one would help her, because no one did. Im sorry for all the pain you were caused, im saddened by all the stories on this page, no one is better than anyone and only now is anti bullying taken seriously. Rest in peace tempest.

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Justin Wells said...

Such a beautiful young girl...12 years old; life's barely begun...yet each one of those twelve years were filled with such sorrow for this darling. It brings tears to my eyes to think these miserable little wretches are still walking, out and about...Their thoughts RARELY I'd say even think back and think about little Tempest and that SHE TOO should be existing....walking about, living Her Life AS WELL...

Sleep, dear Angel. You're away from the plague which is Humanity, now. Albeit, THIS particular Human who didn't physically know Tempest however will NEVER forget Her...

Much Love. <3

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